Mom Pregnant for Son (A mother’s sacrifice)

For most couples, being a parent is the ultimate dream and fulfillment to become a family. Here we will look at the struggles of being a parent, and how some mom’s come to the rescue.

How one Son asked Mom to get pregnant:

A single man asked his mom to act as a surrogate to carry his child. Although uncommon, we usually read stories of daughters asking their mothers to be surrogates, but here is a single man who asked the most unusual request from his mom.

The unusual story of the single man asking his mom to be pregnant as his surrogate. This story came to light when the issue of adoption was in court in England, that ruled for the dad to adopt his child from his mother, who was then 7 months old.

Some expressed opinions wherein questioning the intention of the single man to have a child through his mother by surrogacy. That even at his young age, he can have his own partner and have a child through natural methods of pregnancy.

A Mother becomes pregnant with her child’s baby:

A couple was desperate to have a baby. The wife had a partial hysterectomy when she was in her teens due to a tumor. The only way to remove the tumor is through hysterectomy which in consequence, she cannot bear children anymore. After they got married, they consulted a doctor and the only way for them to get pregnant is through gestational surrogacy.

After everything they heard rthat, they decided to find one, but to no avail. They were heartbroken and desperate, when the man’s mother decided to help them. His mother realized that the only way the couple can have a baby is if she helps them.

It was a special moment for the family for the grandmother to carry her own grandchild in her womb. The fertilized embryo was transferred to her and the pregnancy started. The couple was really blessed to have a good hearted grandmother-to-be who happily volunteered to carry their child.

How to get pregnant through Surrogacy:

Surrogacy is defined as a legal arrangement whereby a woman agrees to carry a child for another person or couple, who will become the child’s parents after birth. 

A person or couple may seek this kind of intervention  or another form of assisted reproductive technologies  (ART), when pregnancy of the couple or individual is medically impossible. A high risk woman can seek this kind of pregnancy especially if the pregnancy is too dangerous for her. Also this has become popular with male couples, or single men seeking to have kids on their own.

Surrogacy arrangements can be with monetary compensation or not. If money is involved or the whole arrangement is paid in some countries where it is legal to do so, it is called commercial surrogacy. The legality and costs may depend on the offer and jurisdiction of the location. 

If this is not allowed in the country where the couple is located, they sometimes have to travel out of state or country to do this arrangement.  In some countries, surrogacy is allowed only if there is no exchange of money.

Couples can also seek third-party agencies who offer this kind of service where they will match the seeking couple to a surrogate. It often has various medical and psychological tests to make sure the best match is made and a good chance of healthy gestation and delivery. They also facilitate all legal documentation and procedure concerning the intended parents and their surrogate.

Traditional Surrogacy:

This is known as natural, partial or straight surrogacy is the one where the procedure uses the surrogate’s egg to be fertilized in vivo by the intended father’s or a door sperm.  Insemination by the donor can either be through natural or artificial insemination.

If the procedure uses a donor sperm, the result is the child is not genetically related to the intended parents. If the sperm being used is from the father, then the child will be genetically related to the father and the surrogate.

Gestational Surrogacy:

Gestational or also called full surrogacy was first done in April 1986 and resulted in a child named then as “Baby M”. It takes place when an embryo created through in vitro fertilization (IVF) technology is implanted to the surrogate’s womb, also called a gestational carrier.  This way, the resulting child is not genetically related to the surrogate.

In the gestational surrogacy, it is ideal that the gestational carrier is between 21 and 45 years of age. In the couple’s story above mentioned, the couple’s mother-in-law is beyond 50, but still opted to get pregnant so her son and daughter-in-law so they can fulfill their dream of becoming parents.

It is reported in a study that the motivation of the gestational surrogates is an altruistic desire to help a childless couple. Other less common given reasons are for the financial compensation and to experience the pregnancy.

Ethical issues:

There are numerous issues raised with regards to surrogacy, and generally includes social justice, women’s rights, child welfare, and bioethics.

For the surrogate mother, it can be viewed as a social injustice and that it leads to the exploitation of the womb of the women in developing countries to meet the reproductive needs of the more affluent. While supporters of this argue that it provides a source of revenue for women facing poverty in the developing countries. 

The lack of legislation in such countries often leads to the agencies and middle-men earning more from the arrangement than the actual surrogate mother herself.  Feminists have argued that surrogacy is an assault to a woman’s dignity and the right to autonomy over her body. 

By utilizing impoverished women to the mere status of “baby producers”, commercial surrogacy has been accused as commodifying women’s bodies in a manner similar to prostitution. Supporters then argue to mandate education of surrogate mothers regarding their rights and risk through the process to rectify the ethical issues that arise on this kind of arrangement. 

For the child’s right in the context of surrogacy usually is related to identity and parenthood, abandonment and abuse, and child trafficking. It is believed  that in commercial surrogacy, the rights of the child if often neglected as the baby is just a commodity in the transaction. 

Child welfare concerns over the abandonment of the child or abuse that may occur if the intending parent divorces, changes their minds or decides they want a different child. A case in Thailand where an Australian couple abandoned the twin boys they had surrogate due to Down’s syndrome resulted in the country banning surrogacy.

Fertility tourism

Countries like the United States, Canada, Greece, Ukraine, Russia, Georgia are popular places for foreigners intending to surrogate. This kind of transaction for tourism is driven by legal restrictions of the country. Other countries that have banned commercial surrogacy for non-residents are India, Nepal, Thailand and Mexico.

Conclusion:

In this article we have been enlightened on another form of pregnancy which is made through surrogacy. Some men or women ask their mother to be their surrogate so they can fulfill their dream of having their own child. This arrangement is legal in some countries but frowned upon or illegal in many countries and has banned commercial surrogacy to protect exploitation of its women.

FAQ on “Mom pregnant for son”:

How can a mom get pregnant through surrogacy?

Three are two kinds of surrogacy which are traditional and gestational. Mothers who volunteer to become a surrogate are called gestational surrogates. 

What happens if a mom dog gets pregnant by her son?

If the breed are closely related to each other, it can cause undesirable genetic traits, like health issues to arise from birth. Breeding a mom to her son is risky due to the recessive genes that the two may have and can be passed on to their offspring.

Can a puppy get his mom pregnant?

Technically, yes, The puppy can get the mom pregnant. Two dogs can mate and conceive. But if you should cross the mother dog and her son, it is another story. It is not recommended to crossbreed the dogs with their children or siblings.

What happens if a dog gets pregnant by her brother?

There is no impact on the female dog. The impact would be on their offspring.


Can a mother get pregnant with her son?

Yes, if a biological mother and son have intercourse, she may become pregnant.   And there’s a lot of risk of disabilities with their offspring. It is highly illegal for mothers or sisters to get pregnant from their own son or brother. 

References:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Surrogacy#:~:text=Surrogacy%20is%20an%20arrangement%2C%20often,parent(s)%20after%20birth.

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